Power, Surrender & Play with Newman Alexander

Empowerment & Letting Go
led by Newman Alexander

30 Sept & 1st Oct | London
Level 1 Workshop

What’s sexier and more intimidating than power?
What’s more challenging and transformative than surrender?
How can play redefine our relationship with both?

These are the questions we explore at Power, Surrender & Play (for your lovelife and your whole life). At this workshop you learn how playing with power and surrender can have a positive effect in every area of your life.


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Power can be a dirty word

We often imagine unkindness, a lack of compassion, treating others badly to get ahead. Many shy away from wielding power for fear of abusing it. In the resulting vacuum, power is often taken by greedy, unscrupulous people to whom we’re forced to surrender. Learning to work consciously with power is urgently important, both personally and politically.

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What’s good about surrender?

In spiritual work surrender is a good thing; but secular definitions see it as losing, being weak, giving up. As a result we find it hard to let go, even when it’s the right thing to do. As our highly-individualised society teeters on the brink of collapse, can learning to surrender help us to build a more connected, open-hearted and sustainable world?

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Remembering how to play

When we adults remember how to play, amazing things happen. Play gives us back our innocence, reconnects us with our creativity and helps us to find fresh ways to approach problems and challenges. And it’s fun!

At this workshop we look at the dynamics of power and surrender through the lens of play. Read on to find out more about this exciting, empowering and sexy new workshop, led by SP Founder Newman Alexander.

At this weekend workshop you go on a personal journey into Power & Surrender: what they mean for you and how you can transform your relationship with them through play. Here you meet power and surrender as vital forces to revel in and enjoy, rather than scary things to shun and avoid. You learn how to wield power responsibly, how to let go more easily and how to make the dynamic between them playful and sexy.

If you’re lucky, you might even taste the bittersweet tang of (consensually) abusing power – both for its own pleasure and to better understand why so many people do it. By getting in touch with those impulses in play you learn how to discharge them and not to indulge them (consciously or unconsciously) in life.

By learning to wield power skilfully and surrender gracefully, lovemaking becomes more alive and more intimate. You don’t have to be kinky to feel the benefits of this: power & surrender are essential elements in even the most vanilla lovelife. They’re literally everywhere!

And this workshop takes you beyond your lovelife. You'll learn what happens inside you when you’re treated harshly while surrendering and how to work with the emotional responses that come up around it. You’ll explore status and power and how they play out in almost every situation. You’ll use what you learn about power in an erotic context to find new ways to play with power and surrender in the rest of your life.

Whether you’re someone who needs to step up and be more empowered, or you’re someone who finds it hard to surrender when that’s what the situation calls for (or both), we welcome you to Power & Surrender (for your love life and your whole life).

Pricing and practical info

Regular £220
Concession £180
Supportive £260

Concessions are offered to those who earn considerably less and cannot afford the regular rate. Please be honest and only take a concession if you need to.

The supportive rate is for those who can afford it. It enables us to offer more concessionary places and is a great way to demonstrate generosity.

We reserve a small number of places on a Pay What You Can basis. This is for those whose circumstances would otherwise prohibit them from attending this event. If you would like to attend on this basis please email info [at] sacredpleasures [dot] co [dot] uk.

Power, Surrender & Play takes place at a private venue in Stoke Newington, North-East London.

Workshop dates & times
Power, Surrender & Play is a full weekend experience so please commit to attending it from start to finish.

Saturday 30th September, 10am – 8pm
Sunday 1st October, 10am – 6.30pm

Who is this workshop is for?

Power, Surrender & Play is a Level 1 (introductory) workshop, which means it’s suitable for beginners to conscious sexuality. You don’t need prior experience to attend this workshop, but we ask that you come with an open mind and a willingness to learn and discover.

Power, Surrender & Play is also suitable for more seasoned sexual explorers who want to explore these themes more deeply. So if you’re an SP regular, a seasoned kinkster, a Tantric adventurer or some other type of erotic explorer, you’re deeply welcomed. This course takes a fresh approach to age-old themes, including a heap of new material about power and surrender.

This workshop is open to people of any gender and orientation. If you come on your own you’re invited to work with different people throughout the weekend. If you come with a lover or partner (or two or three) you’re invited to work with them as much as you want – and if you wish sometimes to work separately, that’s also welcomed.

In brief, you’re welcomed whatever your relationship status, sexual orientation, gender or age (as long as you are over 18).

Who leads this workshop?

Newman Alexander (formerly London Faerie)

Power, Surrender & Play is led by Newman Alexander (formerly London Faerie), the founder and curator of Sacred Pleasures. 

Find out more about Newman here.
See their ratings from previous workshops here.

A few words about gender

At our workshops we aim to have a good balance of people across the gender spectrum. This includes those who are gender-queer, gender-fluid, trans or otherwise gender-identified.

The exercises and activities we invite you to participate in are never gendered and we don’t emphasize or reinforce ideas on how men, women or others are supposed to behave. Instead we create a space where you can discover what you want and how you want to express it according to your desires and preferences.

We ask all participants to bring awareness about their assumptions concerning gender and sexual orientation.

One assumption we sometimes meet in workshops is this: as a straight male participant, you’ll always partner with a female participant and you have the right to express consternation if that doesn’t happen. We do not support this assumption and we never guarantee the gender of the person you’ll be working with in any exercise.

That said, we encourage you to take care of your boundaries at all times if you find yourself paired with someone you’re not normally intimate with or aren’t attracted to. At the same time we encourage you to let yourself be surprised by the intimacy and connection that’s possible when you drop certain assumptions.

In brief: please come with an open mind, don’t assume anything and stay within your boundaries.